WHAT IS THIS ABOUT???
RECOVERY FROM ADDICTION TO DRUGS AND ALCOHOL AND SEX AND
LOVE AND CO-DEPENDENCE AND FOOD ADDICTIONS AND "ECOHOL"
THIS PAGE:
THE 12 STEPS:
This page is maintained by
Allan A. with 23 years clean
and sober in AA and NA and
participation in ALANON and
CODA and SLAA as well as
Ecoholics A., a 12 step
program for addiction to
environmental and
ecological dysfunction, and
codependence on that
dysfunction as "ecohol."
The 12 step approach was
originally developed by AA
as a way of dealing with
alcoholism.  This site
emphasizes a form of the 12
step where GOD = Good
Orderly Direction of any
positive kind.
Any behavior, any substance, and activity
should support joy, love, peace, and hope
on the part of all who participate.  It should
be a matter of Win-Win for all.  When a
behavior, drinking, doing drugs, making
love, having sexual experiences with those
who drink, use drugs, marrying them,
supporting them, etc, when these
behaviors cause you to loose, them to
loose, support anger, hate, fear, sadness
on your part, on the part of others, there is
something wrong.

Recovery means change.  Generally, it
means changing old behavior.  The 12
step approach practiced in AA, NA,
Alanon, Naranon, SLAA, SA, CODA, and
other 12 step organizations, asks you to
look at those behaviors that cause you to
constantly loose, or help other loose.  
These are things you may be powerless
over.  Generally, if you are powerless over
one mind altering substance, you are
powerless over all.  Generally, if you are
going to give up drugs and alcohol, you
must give up both, you must practice the
program recommended in the literature of
AA, NA, Alanon, and Naranon.  Generally,
if you are dependent, you are exposed to
helping other in their powerlessness,
helping them in their self destructive
behavior.  At some point love and sex
seem to always enter in.  Many of us must
participate in programs like SLAA and SA
that help us understand our powerless over
addictive sex and love.

For me there was a simple solution.  This
was my powerless list =  CANTS =
C = Codependence (enabling others)
A = Alcohol (no use of alcoholic substance)
N = Narcotics (no mind altering substance)
T = Tobacco (no nicotine for me)
S = Sex and Love (no lust allowed)

This meant GROWTH:

G = Go to AA, NA, SLAA,
Alanon,                      Naranon, CODA,
ACA, and other 12            step meetings
R = Read the 12 step literature
O = One Day at a Time, do not drink,
use,          act out, enable
W = work the 12 steps
T = talk to my sponser
H = help others in recovery, give it
away,           sponsor and do service.

So what is my higher power?, who is
God?, God is the positive order, good
orderly direction, that created me, created
the good things in the world, provides me
with the help I need to create WIN-WIN
situations for me and others.  I know it is
the will of God if it works for WIN WIN
love joy peace and hope for me and
everyone and keeps me away from
alcohol, drugs, addictive sex and love and
codependence one day at a time.

Prayer is any affirmation, statement,
communication I attempt to make to that
higher order of love and joy and
meditation is any attempt I make to listen
to it, communicate with it, be absorbed by
it, attend to it, etc.

It does not matter if I am atheist, agnostic,
Christian, Buddhist, etc.  Love and joy can
be experience by anyone.  Which ever
creed is finally true, I need to be on the
side of the WIN-WIN piece of it rather than
the losing piece.  This means I seek the
right and true where I find it, from
Christian, Moslem, Atheist, or Agnostic,
man or women, heterosexual or
homosexual, black or white, it matters not.

I am not God, I do not have the answers.  I
need to stop preaching to God, to the
universe, trying to control the show.  It is
time for me to listen to all that is greater,
more loving, more joyous, more WIN
WIN, less negatively addictive, less
destructive, more meaningful, more
fulfilling.  It is time for me to serve rather
than be served, to comfort rather than be
comforted (but non codependent service,
not deliberate loss so that losers can
destroy themselves and take me with
them).  It is time to join the WINNERS in
the deeper sense, rather than the shallow
things that seem to win, but ultimately only
bring loss to everyone.  These I will find,
one day at a time in the meetings and
literature of the 12 step programs, AA,
NA, Alanon, Naranon, CODA,  SLAA, SA,
OA, Emotions A., Ecoholics A., ACA, etc..

It begins by looking outside.  I need to
Think, Think, Think about that Drink Drink
Drink and watch for the engine, the first
drink that gets me drunk, not the cabose
that I used to watch.  I need to stop all the
mind altering substances, all the enabling
behaviors, all the lustful romance and sex
and love that creates intoxicating
attachments to the external world in ways
that are destructive to me and others.  It
begins with the first step.  I discover that I
am powerless over this external world.

The second and third step connect me with
the powers that work for Win-Win, for joy
and love and recovery.  Who or what, this
is my source, my maker, my providence.  I
need to hold to it, believe in it, let it guide
me to sanity.  It can be an ecology of
mind, it can be the good order of mind and
nature (God as Good Orderly Direction
from any source).  The point is I need to
stop being God and surrender to the
higher order of existence, Buddha,
Dharma, Christ, Cosmic Mind, Life Force,
Higher Self, Ecology of Mind, what is my
path?  I must find it.

The fourth, fifth, six, seventh, eighth, ninth,
and tenth steps allow me to turn inside and
take inventory of my inner resources.  To
start taking inventory and making amends
on a daily basis (step 10).

When I find these inner resources laking, I
can strengthen them through prayer and
meditation (step 11) and by putting the
principles of inner focused living to
practice in all of my affairs (step 12).

Basic to 12 step and 12 step recovery are
the twelve central notions:
1.FIRST THINGS FIRST
2.KEEP IT SIMPLE
3.IF IT WORKS DONT FIX IT
4.ONE DAY AT A TIME
5.KEEP COMING BACK (to meetings)
6.EASY DOES IT
7.PRINCIPLES BEFORE
PERSONALITIES
8.THINK THINK THINK (thru that drink,
use)
9.FEEL YOUR FEELINGS
10.INTO ACTION
11.LIVE AND LET LIVE
12.STUFF HAPPENS

So (Avoid SPARKS, Self Pitying Angry
Resentmentful Knowitall Selfcenteredness)
Instead do
HONESTY
OPEN-MINDEDNESS
WILLINGNESS

AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

SAGE = Surrender, Acceptance, Gratitude,
Effort to DETACH FROM LOSER ACTS
HIGHER POWER = WIN WIN WIN for all
RECOVERY MEANS CHANGING IT ALL
HANG OUT WITH INSIDE JOB WINNER
PEOLPLE, PLACES, THINGS
PLAY WITH BERKELEY AND BUDDHA,
WITH NA AND AA AND ALANON, NOT
IN BARS, NOT WITH DRUGS, NOT
WITH LOSER PEOPLE

YOU Need to get GRASP, a higher orb of
the SAGE above, Gratitude,
Responsibility, Acceptance, Surrender,  to
spiritual Principles (as above).

Revised New Years Eve. 2011